I’ve always found the idea of “saving” your virginity intriguing: It’s not as if we’re packing our Saran-wrapped hymens away in the freezer, after all, or pasting them in scrapbooks. But packed-away virginities aside, the interesting — and dangerous — idea at play here is that of “morality.” When young women are taught about morality, there’s not often talk of compassion, kindness, courage, or integrity. There is, however, a lot of talk about hymens (though the preferred words are undoubtedly more refined — think “virginity” and “chastity”): if we have them, when we’ll lose them, and under what circumstances we’ll be rid of them.
While boys are taught that the things that make them men — good men — are universally accepted ethical ideals, women are led to believe that our moral compass lies somewhere between our legs. Literally. Where it’s the determining factor in our “cleanliness” and “purity” or the marker of our character, virginity has an increasingly dangerous hold over young women. It affects not only our ability to see ourselves as ethical actors outside of our own bodies, but also how the world interacts with us through social mores, laws, and even violence.
Jessica Valenti, The Purity Myth
I find it sad in the feminist movements desperate need to convince woman that sex is good for them and not evil they refuse to acknowledge that some women actually WANT to abstain. I’m fully aware that your hymen is mythical and that there is no way to know that you are not a virgin. I also look forward to sex and a sexual relationship, but I want it to be with someone I love that moves me that is dedicated to me and only me and is bonded to me through faith, trust, love and the law. There is nothing shameful about sex and I don’t think poorly of people that have sex before marriage, but if you wish so desperately for me to accept your promiscuity then please have the respect for me to know that I refuse to sully something I consider sacred for quick pleasure with the first person I fancy. I have very strict rules that govern my personal behavior. I do not want to be with a man who has had multiple partners and the way in which I define virginity has nothing do with hymens or boundaries. Oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation, ect. is a loss of virginity in my eyes. Any sexual act with another person is what determines whether or not you loose your virginity which is your spiritual purity. I fully understand that most other people do not feel this way and I don’t expect anyone to adhere to my standards nor do I judge your actions on the same scale as I would judge my own because it is your body and your life. So next time someone accuses me a being a prude, missing out, or being ridiculous for being completely free of sexual experiences at 18 then remember this too is my body and my life and I know what is best for me.
Whoop dee fucking doo. We live in a society that glorifies purity and condemns sexual freedom for women, and I don’t give a flying fuck what anyone’s personal opinions are either way, unless it starts to inhibit my own freedom. And when we live in a society that determines my moral character based on whether or not I’ve had sex, then I’m allowed to get mad at the notion that “pure” is superior.
It’s sad that the feminist movement needs to convince girls that sex is good, you’re absolutely right. Because they should already know that. Because there is NOTHING wrong with a girl having sex, or not having sex. The point is about having a CHOICE and not being judged for it, no matter what that choice is.
Literally no one is stating that abstinence is bad. What’s bad is when we ingrain in women’s heads that abstinence is their only option if they want to be respected, if they want to be taken seriously, if they want to be seen as a decent human being. That is what’s harmful. How do people not get this?
Theodore Roosevelt, October 27, 1858 – January 6, 1919
“Death had to take him sleeping, for if Roosevelt had been awake there would have been a fight.”
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I’ve always found the idea of “saving” your virginity intriguing: It’s not as if we’re packing our Saran-wrapped hymens away in the freezer, after all, or pasting them in scrapbooks. But packed-away virginities aside, the interesting — and dangerous — idea at play here is that of “morality.” When young women are taught about morality, there’s not often talk of compassion, kindness, courage, or integrity. There is, however, a lot of talk about hymens (though the preferred words are undoubtedly more refined — think “virginity” and “chastity”): if we have them, when we’ll lose them, and under what circumstances we’ll be rid of them.
While boys are taught that the things that make them men — good men — are universally accepted ethical ideals, women are led to believe that our moral compass lies somewhere between our legs. Literally. Where it’s the determining factor in our “cleanliness” and “purity” or the marker of our character, virginity has an increasingly dangerous hold over young women. It affects not only our ability to see ourselves as ethical actors outside of our own bodies, but also how the world interacts with us through social mores, laws, and even violence.
Jessica Valenti, The Purity Myth
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oh so here’s what i accomplished at my 3-day-long oil painting workshop, instructed by the great amazing master of color Hongnian Zhang and his wife Lois Woolley.
it was only my second time using oil paints (the last time was a lesson my auntie gave me 3 years ago, oy) so i’m pleased with it in that sense buttttt i know i still have a ways to gooo! ahhh!
The only thing my kids ever ask me to draw is Harry potter on his firebolt battling a dragon
not to belittle my cute silly little drawings (disney pixar and pirates of the caribbean characters will forever be my favorite things to do), but sometimes i am just itching to draw something realistic that i can really show off
this is only the second time i’ve ever done a portrait of a lady. first was my babygirl penelope cruz. elle fanning is the most beautiful little girl in the world, imo, so she was my natural choice for ladyportrait #2
except i’m an idiot for doing this because i’m at the shore right now and all i brought were 3H and HB pencils which are very light which means i can’t shade properly and reach the proper values but i’m too impatient to wait til i get home tomorrow so if i want this to turn out well i’ll probably have to end up redrawing it pffff that ain’t happening so instead i will be stuck with a very low-contrast portrait. WHATEVER I SUCK ANYWAY.
have i told you lately
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